Family wise as the children grow up into adults and form their own families, their needs change and the traditions shift, get shuffled around and we do different things. We seem to have evolved into visiting some families before christmas, rather than them coming up to our house. It’s good but it has meant I’m exhausted already after a lot of driving and some child care down south. One of my offspring is away this xmas and another is about to go abroad for some time, so I’m a bit sad but trying to be upbeat.
It’s a difficult time of year for me, as I’ve blogged about before, but I need to remember:
I’ve enjoyed (overall) the last few christmases a lot more.
It’s over quickly, just one day.
I don’t have to do stockings any more which is a big relief
I used to be triggered by the Queen’s speech and her voice, that (no disrespect to her) will not be happening ever again.
I’m triggered by the gift opening but if I am in a small gathering as I am this year (without masses of children’s presents) it will be time limited.
It is an opportunity to see people / family afterwards which is usually nice and fun.
Over the years I’ve become more and more aware of other people who find xmas difficult. They usually are fairly low key about it as the people who ADORE christmas are so loud and enthusiastic and will immediately shout any dissenting voices down. When I’ve come across them, I have started to identify myself as someone who also finds christmas difficult. I never ask why because I imagine it is personal but it is good to know I am not alone!
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